Cancer appointments can feel short and full at the same time. There is a lot of information, a lot of new words, and often not much time. Many people leave an appointment and only then think of what they wanted to ask.
A little preparation can make these conversations easier. This article offers simple, practical steps for before, during and after an appointment, for patients and for the people who support them.
What you will learn
- How to prepare for an appointment so that your questions are not forgotten
- How to make the most of the conversation itself
- What to do after the appointment, and how caregivers can help
Before the appointment
You do not need to prepare everything. A few small things are enough.
- Write your questions down as they come to you, in a notebook or on your phone
- Put the most important question first, in case time runs short
- List any symptoms or changes you have noticed, and when they started
- Bring a list of your medicines, including vitamins and supplements
- If you can, bring someone with you to listen and take notes
- If no one can come with you, ask whether you may record the conversation on your phone
During the appointment
- Say what matters most to you, even if it feels small
- If you do not understand a word, ask the doctor or nurse to explain it again in simpler terms
- Ask what the next step is, and when you will hear from the team
- Write down the answers, or ask the person with you to do it
It is always fine to say, “Could you repeat that?” or “I need a moment.” Clear understanding is part of good care.
After the appointment
Take a few minutes to read through your notes while the conversation is fresh. Mark anything you did not understand and keep it for the next visit or for a call to the care team.
Keep your notes, test results and appointment dates together in one place, such as a folder or a single notebook. This makes the next appointment easier to prepare for.
For caregivers
If you are supporting someone with cancer, you can help by taking notes, keeping track of questions and appointment dates, and making sure the patient has a chance to speak. Let the patient lead the conversation when they are able to. If they prefer that you speak for them, that is fine too. Looking after your own needs matters as well, and you are welcome to ask the team questions of your own.
It is also fine to ask for more
If you feel you need more support, for example with pain, eating, or emotional stress, you can ask your care team about a referral to a specialist. You can also ask about a second opinion. You can also ask whether palliative care could help. It focuses on comfort and quality of life and can be provided alongside treatment, not only at the end of it. They are all a normal part of care.
Questions to ask your care team
- Where do I stand right now, and what is the plan?
- What happens next, and when?
- How might this affect my daily life, such as work, eating, sleep and energy?
- Who should I contact between appointments if I have a question?
- Are there other specialists or support services that could help me?
- What are my options, and what would each one mean for me?
References
European Society for Medical Oncology (ESMO), Patient Guides: esmo.org/for-patients
National Cancer Institute, Coping with Cancer: cancer.gov
American Society of Clinical Oncology, Cancer.Net: cancer.net
All OncoEd materials are educational. They do not replace advice from a patient’s own medical team.
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